Just read this on HuffPost, of all places.

Humorous, solid advice and great to see on a media like this. Must be following the success Cosmo has had with articles like this for years.



Humans are Sexual Omnivores

by lauran on February 22, 2014

A lot of what we take as normal or truth about human sexuality is actually a set of beliefs handed down from generation to generation. But some people – like Christopher Ryan – have looked at the reality of our species and offer a longer view of human sexuality. So the question this video asks is this:

Are humans monogamous by nature or is this a recent development?

Watch to the end to see why Christopher Ryan believes that our struggle with monogamy and the suffering it brings is not necessary.

For more information you might enjoy reading his book – Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships.


I’ll always remember when news of the G-spot first hit. Lots of debate about whether it was real or not, if every woman had one, and what to do with it. Some of this early buzz and confusion is still going on, just bring up female ejaculation and the discussion gets interesting quickly.

An interview with Beverly Whipple, one of the researchers and writers who brought most of this information out, lead to an interesting point that I’d not heard about before – the extragenital matrix.

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One of the things about living in non-monogamous relationships is that you have to be clear about your definitions and rules. Especially when you’re getting started.

And you have to keep being clear about everything as time goes on. What was not okay at first may be something to explore later.

Sometimes you have to back up because something you thought was okay turns out to be a problem.

But compare this way of living to the average couple who never honestly discuss their sexuality or intimacy. That’s how most people start relationships. No wonder our divorce rate is over 50%.

There’s new research that shows that young couples disagree on whether they are monogamous or not.

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The Space Between Monogamy and Cheating

by lauran on July 6, 2011

An article by Johanna Lyman makes a great point about the monogamy versus non-monogamy debate.

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Sex Furniture to Help Rock Your World

by lauran on July 4, 2011

When I think of Fox News I do not normally think of them as running an article on sex furniture. And, if they were, I would have thought they’d be playing up the worst possible angle on the story.

Imagine my surprise when I found a well written article with solid information about high quality sex furniture. On Fox. They even had fun with it:

The thing is, when it comes to sex furniture, there’s something for everyone. The key is to figure out what you want it to do, how much you want to spend, and how discreet you need or want it to be. Then, let the shopping begin. You’ll never have more fun testing out the goods!

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What do you mean, you’re monogamous?

by lauran on July 1, 2011

An article at Solon wondered “How common is infidelity, anyway?”

With all the famous and powerful men caught cheating lately, it seems like a valid question.

But, like most questions, the answer starts with “It depends…” Here’s what they had to say.

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Mostly Straight, Most of the Time

by lauran on June 29, 2011

One of the interesting things about the swinging lifestyle is how female bisexuality is celebrated while male bisexuality is forbidden.

Actually, most women who occasionally enjoy sex with another woman don’t think of themselves as bisexual. They just like playing with another girl.

But for men, in or out of the lifestyle, it’s a different story.

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Power and Sex, Women and Men

by lauran on June 27, 2011

A recent study found that powerful women are just as likely to have affairs as powerful men.

“People often assume that powerful men may be more likely to cheat because they have risk-taking personalities or because of distance, such as frequent business trips that many powerful people go on. We found little correlation between either of the two,” said Lammers.

The study revealed two key discoveries to why powerful people cheat. First, there is a strong association between power and confidence and that the amount of confidence a person has is the strongest link between power and unfaithfulness. Second, the researchers found that among powerful people gender made no difference in past digressions or the participants’ desires to cheat.

Which brings up the question – why don’t we hear about powerful women getting caught cheating?

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Celibacy Is A Perversion

by lauran on June 22, 2011

Celibacy is the perversion of an ancient sex secret.

Thousands of years before organized religion promoted celibacy for priests, Taoist and Tantric masters were teaching men to have sex – even to have orgasms – without ejaculation. And they did it for several good reasons.

These teachings did not restrict sex.

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