Why Do We Demonize Men Who Are Honest About Their Sexual Needs?

by lauran on June 14, 2011

Another interesting article from Clarisse Thorn, this time in a great site called The Good Men Project Magazine

“Society pressures men to initiate sexual relationships, yet punishes them when they’re candid about their desires.”

It’s a long article (hey, it’s Clarisse…) but it’s worth the read.

We have a lot of double standards for sexual behavior.

For instance, a man who has lots of sex partners is a stud. A woman with a lot of sex partners is a slut. In most circles being called a stud is positive while being called a slut is negative.

But a woman who is sexually aggressive is hot and attractive while a man being sexually aggressive comes off as a creep. Creep is a word Clarisse brings up early in the article. She takes a good hard look at why

From the sex-negative perspective of the moral majority, no one should be open about their sexual needs. As Clarisse quotes a visitor to her blog:

“The only way for a guy to guarantee that he won’t be called ‘creepy’ is to suppress entirely his sexuality, just like a woman can escape being called a slut by suppressing hers.”

Like I said, it’s worth the read. And spend a few minutes looking around the site. If you’re a male you’re likely to find support from like-minded people. If you’re a woman some of the articles will open your eyes to what the other side has to deal with. All around a great site.

Why Do We Demonize Men Who Are Honest About Their Sexual Needs? — The Good Men Project Magazine.

How about you – have you suppressed your sexuality to keep from being creepy?

Let me know what you think…

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